|Jude Treder-Wolff writes about |
Interpersonal Relationships for Examiner.com
- It’s not what we give, it’s how. In the end, what we – and our kids - recall about family holiday time is how it felt to be there. “Busy busy busy.” “Overworked.” “Stretched in a million different directions.” “Resentful.” “Exhausted.” These are the words participants at a professional workplace “Healthier Holidays” seminar used to describe what they remember about their parents’ state of mind over the holidays as they were growing up. As hard-working parents who found themselves trapped in a similar cycle of externally-driven obligation and stress in the name of making their children happy, this exercise helped to reframe and let go of some misery-inducing, ingrained patterns of thinking.
- Be there. Consciously choosing where to dedicate our attention requires a combination of knowing our values and our limits. Honoring our own limits saves our energy for fun-with-family-and-friends and enhances our ability to fully engage with what is happening when everyone is together.
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