Part one in a series of articles about creativity and the process of change
The farm where I grew up
outside a lovely, rural Wisconsin town could change your life in one
poorly-timed, seemingly-minor decision. To wear loose-fitting gloves for
feeding corn cobs into a crusher, for example, or close your eyes at the wrong
second as pitchforks of hay are being thrown in your direction. Life on a
working farm is peaceful, nature-centered, and rife with a hundred ways to die
on any given day: Heavy equipment with fast-moving rotors and pistons and
blade. Towering structures housing tons of grain and hay and free range
rodents. Insecticides. Animals who know they are on death row. A person could
be run over, buried, sliced, suffocated, burned, impaled, baled, poisoned,
drowned, bitten, fall from a great height, at any moment on any given day. And
nearly everybody smoked. In our tight-knit community, cigarettes were as much a
part of the scene as bake sales, the county fair and Catechism class. There was
the chain-smoking, rasping, parish priest who was likable and funny, the
hacking, asthmatic police chief who rolled his own tobacco and the 4-H leader
who could not sit through a meeting without a nicotine break. I fully qualified
for this nicotine-using union in time for high school graduation.
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by Jude Treder-Wolff, LCSW, RMT, CGP |
All those seemingly obvious risks to life and limb –
along with our health-defying social life dominated by beer, brats and boredom
- were woven so completely into ordinary life that we did not think of them as
threats. Our fear was directed elsewhere, mainly to avoiding eternity in hell
due to sin and failure to comply with a full menu of religious rules and
practices which kept us very busy and our mind off things like getting sucked
into a hay-baler or trampled by a revenge-driven cow. The town abounded with
churches then - they have since been homogenized into a few, supersized,
structures, kind of Costcos-for-Christ -and with bars, at least one per block.
As for lifestyle-related suffering, most of us simply did not see the connection
between today’s head rush and tomorrow’s heart disease.
Smoking was fun in college, and permitted just about
everywhere in those heady days of ash trays designed into nearly every public
structure including hospital emergency rooms and airplanes, where their
incongruity with health and safety was apparently lost on all of us. Smoking
was enjoyed equally by my peers in the health care field and my parallel world
of music and theater. Things have changed dramatically since then, in every way
except the propensity of executives to lie before Congress (let us be grateful for Youtube) about the toxic
nature of their company’s product once people begin to raise serious questions
about it. After decades of advertising not only the coolness, the
lifestyle-enhancing, the elegance but also the safety of cigarette-smoking,
tobacco executives were called to account by the American public in the form of
hearings involving such as things as sworn - as in oath-taking before God –
testimony. In the fine tradition of anyone in the last gasp of a tightly-held
and profitable illusion, the executives participated fully and respectfully in
these hearings with bold and brave lies about the addictive nature of nicotine.
The truth would have been as terminally damaging to their brand as their brand
is to those who use it. But the tensions of change are so powerful and
uncomfortable that its possible these were not so much lies as claims -
desperate, false claims bolstered by desperate emotions as the paradigm within
which these men attained their status shifts beneath their feet. As George
Costanza, one of network television’s most extraordinarily gifted truth-twisters put it,
“it’s not a lie if you believe it.”
A new truth is, at the start,
impossible to believe if believing it changes everything.
Having quit smoking long before it was banned from so
many bars and office buildings or within 50 feet of my ex-fiance, I gradually
became everything I made fun of back then – a non-smoking, yoga-practicing
meditator, inner-life-examiner, and holistic psychotherapist eating a largely
organic, free-range, dairy-free, sugar-limited, often fun-and-flavor-free diet–
changes due in many ways to friends with better ideas and great skin.
Professional as well as personal influences led to my personal awakening and a
gradual but sweeping shift in cultural beliefs and attitudes about smoking
supported the change. After 25 smoke-free years, I continue to be astonished
that the act of inhaling toxic waste deep into my lungs many times a day, an
unnatural behavior that goes againstthe
fundamental survival instincts for which we are hard-wired, once felt so
completely, unquestioningly normal.
And it is remarkable that the shift to a healthy nicotine-free life – what
seems objectively and rationally right and good – involves so much discomfort
and defensiveness.
Our minds are fantastically equipped to filter out
anything that might interfere with what we need to believe especially when it
is linked to our reward circuitry. Simply being told what is and is not
important directs our attention and influences perception. A striking example
of this phenomenon was seen in a famous Harvard University study. Volunteers were told to watch a
thirty-second film of six people playing basketball, and count the number of
passes made by one of the teams. Three people on each team wore matching
T-shirts. During the action in one version of the video, a woman holding an
umbrella walked through the court, another featured a woman in a gorilla suit.
While tallying the number of passes recorded, observers were asked whether they
noticed either anything unusual on the video or any people other than the six
players. Forty-six percent simply did not notice the woman in the gorilla suit,
even though in one version of the film she stopped in the middle of the court,
faced the camera and thumped her chest. Out of those nonnoticers, eighty-eight
“did not believe that the event had happened until the videotape was replayed
for them.”The counters who missed the
gorilla were intently focused on their task and unaware of what their minds
screened out as unimportant.
This study points up the fact
that when we are told to give attention to a thing, we tend to miss or ignore
other things that are also happening right before our eyes. In this way we can normalize some of the obvious
consequences of our dysfunctional systems, and overlook the more subtle ones as
if they were speedbumps in a supermarket parking lot. Like people in love with
the wrong person, we fix the facts to fit the feelings. New information that interferes with
the established narrative is rejected on contact. We can be blind to very real
threats, we can perceive threats where none exist. While denial has its value—especially in the face of psychological
overload when it helps us manage by breaking things down into digestible
portions—it can also be an impenetrable wall that blocks information from
landing on our conscious awareness and limits our understanding of the world.
Jude Treder-Wolff, LCSW, RMT, CGP is a trainer/consultant and writer/performer. Her storytelling show Crazytown: my first psychopath will be performed at The Triad, 158 W. 72nd St, NY on May 18, 2014. To buy tickets click here
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